After reading NML's blog Baggage Reclaim for a couple years now there's one thing she says over and over again. We are not the exception to the rule. Exceptions happen in fairy tales and romantic comedies. Human behaviour is incredibly predictable and routine and it will rarely be the case that the "it could happen" actually happens. We expect to be the exception.
So many conversations about our partners - girls talking about boys in particular - revolve around the hopes and dreams we place on them. The things we want them to be, rather than the people they are. We dream up the rom-com scenarios and imagine our guys moving away from normal and into an exception.
Apparently the rules don't apply to us. Every single one of us. So if the rules don't apply to us, who the hell are they applied to? Rules don't exist unless there are people to follow them. Yet you can put a group of girls into a conversation and there will be multiple exceptions. It cannot possibly happen!
The idea that we will be the expectation is there to prevent us from realizing what is actually happening. A form of denial if you'd like. "It's going to happen/change I just know it!" Sounds a lot like avoiding the inevitable to me. We need to stop expecting to be the exception and start following the rules.
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